I’m going to go back to mental clutter for a bit because I believe that mental health is an important issue to talk about. Having experienced depression, trauma, and anxiety, I think these issues shouldn’t be swept under the rug, and are a huge part of minimalism and a healthy lifestyle. The most important part of living to your fullest is being comfortable in your own skin and being happy for who you are.
Recently I had to make a drastic change to my life. My boyfriend is moving back home for a year for personal reasons, which is on the other side of Canada. Because we’re both students, flying can be expensive, and we are going to be busy with aspects of our lives. Couple that with the 3 hour time difference, regular video chats and calls are going to be difficult for us.
When I first heard that he was going home, I was miserable. I blamed myself for a lot of the problems he had, although he said none of them were my fault. He was a major part of my life, and was a big pillar for me the past year. I was terrified of facing the next academic year without him. I didn’t want to lose the physical intimacy that we have now. I love physical intimacy. I love hugs more than anything. Now, it feels like all of that is slipping away, and I have no control over it.
Luckily, I powered through my emotions, even though it still hurts. We talked over what’s going to happen, planned out our communication, and just discussed a lot of things with each other. He’s leaving in August, and although I won’t be in town most of August and probably won’t see him before he moves, the important part was that it’s not forever. We will visit each other every once in a while, and he will be back the year after.
It still hurts, but communication helps. My advice if you’re in a situation with your partner or a loved one? Communicate. Communication is key to a healthy relationship, and you will feel so much better afterwards. Even if things don’t turn out the way you wanted, you will feel a lot better about yourself, because you handled the situation maturely, and you got to speak your mind.
Never bottle up these emotions inside. Talk to someone